Positive self talk, for me, has been a new concept in the past few months. I’ve mentioned before on Instagram how I sometimes get in these mindsets where all I do is put myself down in any way possible.
“You’re too fat.”
“You aren’t a good writer.”
“You need to be more productive.”
“You’ll never succeed.”
And literally, the list can go on FOREVER. I can be unbelievably mean to myself sometimes. But that’s where positive self talk comes into the picture.
Basically, positive self talk is the act of internally affirming yourself with uplifting and encouraging messages.
Sometimes, this happens without even trying! Have you ever has to coax yourself through the last mile in a very long run? You keep telling yourself “I CAN DO THIS” over and over? Yeah, that’s positive self talk!
But other times–like when you’re an emotional wreck and you feel like the world is out to personally get YOU–it takes major practice. I can speak from personal experience on this one. It’s so much easier to wallow in self pity and further our own emotional misery by talking negatively to ourselves than it is to lift ourselves up with kind words.
Like HELLO what a miserable way to live.
That’s why positive self talk is so important
Positive self talk (or affirmations) have been recommended by psychologists for many years. It has been known to decrease stress and increase self-esteem.
In an article from the Association for Psychological Science, they wrote,
Self-affirmation has been shown to have powerful effects – research suggests that it can minimize the anxiety, stress, and defensiveness associated with threats to our sense of self while keeping us open to the idea that there is room for improvement.
Other studies have shown that positive self talk can improve productivity and performance in all areas of our lives. In our financial situations, relationships, physical fitness, personal goals, and emotional state of mind…affirmations can improve our quality of life.
And what I’ve noticed, personally, is that the more often I repeat positive affirmations to myself, those negative, nasty comments that creep in my head stop happening. In fact, they are replaced with positive thoughts about the good things about me! I internally celebrate my wins and successes, while encouraging myself when I fail.
That’s something that hasn’t always happened for me, so it’s a really cool thing to notice in my thought processes!
I know, all these great things about positive self talk…But how do you do it?!
Let me tell ya, it takes PRACTICE. And a lot of it. But there are several ways I integrate positive self talk into my daily routine.
At first, I literally would stand in front of my bathroom mirror and repeat a list of affirmations that I had looked up the night before. Usually I had 3 or 4 affirmations, and I would repeat them 10 times each. I felt SUPER silly when I first started doing this but over time it kind just became normal.
In fact, I remember one morning I woke up late and had to rush my morning routine (aka nix the whole thing, throw on whatever clothes were on the floor, and sprint out my door) in order to make it to work on time. And the entire day I felt despondent. Like everything was going wrong. It was so weird to me that after only missing one day of positive self talk, I felt so sad!
But that just shows how impactful saying my affirmations was on my life.
So then I moved to having a running list of affirmations as my phone background. Every time I would pick up my phone I would glimpse at the list and say each affirmation to myself one time.
THIS made me realize how often I look at my phone in a day, like SO MANY TIMES.
I probably said my affirmations at least 30 times each day and that’s definitely not a bad thing! I liked having my affirmations on my phone because it helped me integrate positive self talk into every aspect of my day, not just the mornings. It was also really helpful if I was feeling discouraged or upset about something because 9 times out of 10, I’d pick up my phone to distract myself and my affirmations where right there, waiting to be said!
These days, positive self talk is second nature to me. That doesn’t mean I don’t get disheartened or that I never speak negatively to myself, but now I know how to combat it.
When you’re insecure:
My body deserves love. I am perfect, whole, and complete jus the way I am. My body is a gift. It’s okay to love myself now as I continue to evolve. (More body positive affirmations HERE.)
When you’re feeling unsuccessful:
I am solution oriented, all problems are solvable. All my actions are aimed at reaching my goal, I achieve my goals one after the other. I am in charge of my life and will make the correct decision that leads to success. I deserve good things.
When you’re feeling overwhelmed:
Today I am strong & healthy. I choose carefully what goes in my calendar. This too shall pass. I release the need to dwell on bad feelings. One task at a time is enough. I draw on the support that surrounds me, in whatever form. I can communicate my needs an feelings. (More affirmations HERE.)
How do you practice positive self talk? Do you have any favorite affirmations?!
Let me know, babes!