Let’s talk about it. I feel like we’ve all been here before. You know when you’re so stressed/exhausted/drained that even breathing starts to become tedious?
Like HELLO that’s me.
I’m an extremist at heart. There’s no middle ground for me, I’m either 100% one direction or 100% the other direction. NO IN BETWEEN.
When I put my mind to something, I get it done. No distractions. I’m fully focused until my goal is achieved. For example, when I decided to participate in a 30 day yoga challenge as part of my New Years resolutions. I was at the studio every single day for at least 1 hour working on my yoga practice. Nothing stood in the way. It was amazing!
When I shared my thoughts on a balanced lifestyle, I talked about self love. And since then, I’ve realized how unloving it is to run yourself ragged! Taking it easy and giving your mind & body a break is the exact definition of self love. And weirdly enough, taking time for myself was also part of my New Years resolutions.
So it’s kind of a perfect coincidence that I’m now realizing this.
The words “taking it easy” can be skewed to mean several different things. Most people think of it as like taking a “mental health day” or spending the evening practicing self care. And while these things can be super beneficial to your mental, emotional, and physical health, I mean something way more constant when I say “taking it easy.”
I mean we should practice SELF LOVE.
And practicing self love isn’t really something you do, it’s more of a mentality you have. And when you consistently keep that mentality, your life starts to change.
Literally, it will change in ways you didn’t even know it could. SO cool!
If it weren’t for my conscious effort to remain in a self loving mentality, Healthy Habits | Happy Heart wouldn’t even exist. And guys, you have no idea how much this blog has changed MY life, much less how much my amazing readers have changed my life! This blog, to me, IS self loving.
By consciously & consistently taking it easy, my life becomes decluttered. I have room to THINK & BREATHE, plus I make more time for things I enjoy versus things I have to get done. And I notice that when I actively live in this mentality, my stress lessens and I’m at ease.
You can probably figure out why taking it easy is so self loving, RIGHT?! I mean, who doesn’t want to live an unstressed life full of stuff they ENJOY?
This definitely takes practice though. And a lot of work on yourself and your thoughts about yourself.
I mean seriously, I am definitely my worst critic. I’m, like, really hard on myself. Holding myself to this perfectionistic standard has become an unbreakable habit. So it’s really difficult to get out of that mindset and focus on the good things about me and give energy to the positive things in my life.
Trust me, it takes time. It takes consistency.
But once you break the cycle and form this new habit of actively living with a self loving mentality, THINGS CHANGE.
Here are a few ways to live in self love:
+ Meditate: If you’ve read HH|HH for awhile, you know I have this serious love/hate relationship with meditation. I have the attention span of a gold fish so having to sit still for even just 10 minutes is a grueling process. BUT, I still do it. No complaints. And honestly, the more I practice it, the better I am at it & I feel about myself. I am able to have a direct connection with my body and mind. So as a result I’m able to change those negative thoughts I have and replace them with uplifting ones!
+ Do some MAJOR downshifting: Don’t be one of those people who thinks they can do it all. YOU CAN’T. Don’t overcrowd with unnecessary things. Take some time to reevaluate your responsibilities and prioritize them. If it isn’t necessary or it doesn’t bring your joy, get rid of it. BYE. Focusing your energy on responsibilities that enhance your life is self loving, so get rid of anything that drains you.
+ Say no, un-apologetically: I am totally a YES girl. A people pleaser. A pushover. Whatever you want to call it. I love to make other people happy, but sometimes even when my own happiness/sanity is at stake. So I learned to say no. I take care of myself and my priorities first, and if I have the time/energy to spend on other people, then I do! If not, I say NO and I don’t apologize for it.
+ Take mental health & self care days: Just because I try to consistently live in this taking it easy/self love mentality doesn’t mean I won’t take a day off every once and awhile. Sometimes, taking a mental health day is the best thing you can do for yourself! Lately, I’ve been spending my Saturday mornings all by myself. I go do take a spin class at SoulCycle, then I grab coffee at Blue Bottle Coffee and a snack, and I sit with myself for about 2 or so hours. I sometimes read, work on the blog, listen to music or a podcast, and sometimes I just enjoy the weather! But the point is I’m making ME a priority, even if it’s just for one morning a week.
What are some ways you practice self love & take it easy?